Saturday, April 2, 2011

Not Quite Ready Yet...

Well it has finally arrived,
you know that time of your life you have waited so long for,
to see the 'baby' finally grow up and
be ready to be a man.
My husband has stated that as soon as the
kids are on their own
we will have a extra time, money, room in the house, less clothes to wash.

My favorite in the driveway.
 I hate backing out the garage to only have to
maneuver around the kids and friends cars.

Well...the baby had Prom tonight,
18th Birthday will be on Wed.,
then graduation and a senior trip to Europe.
I am so happy for him, but so sad for myself.
Blogging this so I that I don't sit and cry while waiting on him to get home.
Don't get me wrong we are not putting them out..(not yet anyway).
Daughter will graduate with a degree in
 elementary ed. in Dec.
I know there has to be some blog friends that are experiencing these feelings,
Happy...but sad.
Please share how you are coping.
Please don't suggest counseling, I'm broke having all these expenses! LOL


melody-mae said...

my dear friend. your feelings are very natural and you know what? I have been there and I have lived to tell the tale! I baby girl will be graduating next Spring from college (dual major special ed/elem. ed ) anyway, as they have left there were the feelings you are feeling right now...I wasn't sure I could do it ya know? But, now my hubs and I actually have such a great time, really we do. We have reconnected and rediscovered why we fell in love in the first place. Sure the house is quiet in the evenings, no teenagers hanging around...but we have the tv to ourself and can eat whenever we want...and it is QUIET! ;) Do not get me wrong, I LOVE my girls more than life itself but, I am also here to say that having an empty nest isn't too bad either! :) If you need someone to talk to, I am here for you, only an email away! :)


Twice as Nice said...

I know how you feel. My daughter, Lexi, is graduating this year also. My son graduated last year and as you know my oldest is a teacher and now a new mom. It's wonderful being a grandmother but the word grandma doesn't quite fit yet if you know what I mean. All my life all I ever wanted was to be was a mom and I am blessed with 3 great kids that have been nothing less than a joy to raise.

I think the one thing that helps is that they have agreed to attend a junior college not far from our home for the first 2 years and will still be living at home. We may be the odd ones but neither my husband nor I are looking forward to an empty nest. My husband is always saying he doesn't care if they live with us forever, only because we truly love having them around. I guess you could say I'm not done mothering yet. You can call me "S-mother" but I still get up every morning to make sure they are up and have everything they need for the day and their dad always gasses their car...hey maybe they won't move out, they've got it so good here!HA

Nicole said...

Awww....I know how you feel. When Nick left for the Air Force, I cried for weeks! I still feel sad when I think about how much our little one misses him (and Dad and I miss him too) But it does get easier. Now when all the kids are gone...I may be asking you how I can handle it...LOL

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

Oh I do understand. I remember when mine started leaving the nest. It was time to create a whole new normal. Hard to do. I know you will figure it out, just take it one day at a time. Hugs, Marty

Stephanie said...

I like what Marty said, about creating "a new normal". You will find that now you have time for yourself, A LOT of time for yourself. But you will also create a new relationship with your kids on a different level when they are out on their own. They will have a new found respect your wisdom, something that they used to roll their eyes at. Those home cooked meals are now more appreciated. They call you for the reciepes. It is a bridge we all have to cross, it is hard to take the first step, but it leads to another fulfilling chapter in our lives.

Twice as Nice said...

It is like a chapter in your book of life is over and your starting a new chapter. I myself want to go back 10 chapters ago!! I am in NO hurry for my son to be out of the house. He is a freshman now and I wish he was little again. No matter what we do we cannot hold back the hands of time. Look at it this way (you may have to remind me of this in a few years!) the next chapter of your book of life may be one of the best yet!!

~The Robin's Nest~ said...

Oh girl, no worries, mine moved out then moved back in bringing their friends! Then when they FINALLY do move out and get married they come back all the time and bring our precious grandchildren with them. It's good all around especially when you have a good relationship with your kids like you do! You are blessed.

Susie from Bienvenue said...

I'm right there with ya sista! Can you believe our babies are almost out of high school! I think we need to celebrate with a sista road trip....oh yeah!

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